Episode 83
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Alright, guys. Let's record a podcast.
Dr. B:Are we good? Record a podcast?
Dr. B:Welcome back to another episode of the Real Health Podcast. I am stoked. Long time coming here. A lot of requests. Failure to plan, which is not-
Becky Deubert:Typical.
Dr. B:No. Well, I don't even have to announce who the guest is. You obviously know because I'm getting ripped on the first 20 seconds. So welcome, my wife, to the show.
Becky Deubert:Yay.
Dr. B:So, you know, we're in this kids series, and we are just processing with the, with the listeners on how to raise healthy children in this season. So when we're thinking about today's episode, most of this is just gonna be, you know, off the cuff conversation about how we live our daily life. Really, nothing is planned today in a sense, but we wanna be intentional with giving our listeners some framework of, hey. This is this is how we raise our children.
Dr. B:Yeah.
Dr. B:Here's some values, from a nutritional standpoint, from a parenting standpoint, and we wanna add value to to listeners. So thanks for listening in. Again, joined by my wife, if you don't know her, Becky. Most of you do. She's amazing. She cares for our kids so well. She homeschools. Gosh. She does everything for us. She keeps our unit together.
Dr. B:She adds so much value of love and care for the kids, where, you know, she- I'm probably more the truth, she's probably more the grace. So it's a beautiful blend, beautiful relationship. We've come a long way in our own, like, marriage health journey.
Becky Deubert:That's right.
Dr. B:When I met you, you were not necessarily the cleanest eater of the bunch.
Becky Deubert:I was not. I had Skittles and Diet Coke for breakfast every morning.
Dr. B:You know, you know, just like what we feed our kids today.
Becky Deubert:Yeah. That's a great story. Maybe for another day. But, you know, when I first met Barrett, he was so extreme. And the before we get into it, the first thing I remember about him was, talking about how
Becky Deubert:"I will never vaccinate my kids. I will never give them this. I'll never do that." And I'm sitting here, a 20 year old who knows nothing, works in health care, and I'm like, "he's crazy. Absolutely extreme and crazy." Anyway, so that that was a whole fun story.
Dr. B:Started it all.
Becky Deubert:Just learning. I had to learn truth. I had to learn, okay, like, what have I been taught and what is truth? So with that, fast forward, you know, 18 years later, and here we are on this journey of health that we're so passionate about. But I can tell you this.
Becky Deubert:This is a saying that, Barrett and I have been using lately, and it's- we have a high level of expectations for our kids, and we have a high level of grace. And I feel like that plays off in every area of our kids in our life right now because the truth is we always wanna be up here with their health and all these things. But the reality is we live in a world that is challenging with functions and school and parties. And so there is a window of grace. But here's the thing that I can tell you that works great for us is really setting rhythms for our children, and that's with setting routines. If you don't have a routine with your child, which means solid bedtimes. Right?
Dr. B:Yeah.
Becky Deubert:Solid times where they know they're gonna eat. You never want kids to never know when their next meal is gonna be. So, yeah, they're always hungry. They're always snacking. They're always looking for the junk.
Becky Deubert:You know, set these rhythms that they know the times these expectations. And with that, that also comes at times of, like, prayer. They know when you're gonna pray together. You know, we have certain times in the car, certain times at night. These expectations of our kids that we give them are so valuable
Dr. B:Yeah.
Becky Deubert:For their little lives just like we need a rhythm and all of that. And along with that comes exercise and finding joy in that with this child. Like, all the same things that we need in our lives, they need in their lives.
Dr. B:Yeah. And I think we can expect more of our kids than some of us expect.
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:And we can also extend more grace to our kids than some may. The the reality is it is both. It is grace and truth. It's high expectations and high grace. But if you don't think your kids need a rhythm, then we're here to kinda tell you that absolutely rhythms, really what we're talking about is disciplines and habits are essential to the health outcomes of your children, emotionally, physically, spiritually.
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:Right? They will they will always remember our Sabbath dinner. They'll always remember our morning or evening prayer time. They'll always remember training at the gym before school, starting in middle school. They'll always remember...
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:training, like the girls who are training right now, our 5 and 9 year old are in the gym right now training, personal training. They'll remember that. These are these are rhythms that they'll remember.
Becky Deubert:Mhmm.
Dr. B:Can we create a rhythm, but also can we create joy in the rhythm that it isn't just this hard line of you failed, you failed, you failed because it's high expectation.
Dr. B:It's like, hey, no, these are the expectations if we wanna live a healthy life. These are the expectations as you get older, these healthy disciplines, that mom and dad incorporate. But we also know that you are going to fail because mom and dad still fail.
Becky Deubert:That's right.
Dr. B:So how do we respond? It's not necessarily perfection. It's our response to our mistake. If you ate something at school you shouldn't have eaten or you went to a party and you consumed something you shouldn't have consumed, you will have the effects of that. Your stomach's probably gonna hurt.
Dr. B:Your belly's gonna feel bloated. And we use that as a teaching tool. We've used that many, many times. And now our kids are aware. Do they still consume gluten or whatever that they shouldn't necessarily be consuming in a normal rhythm diet?
Dr. B:Yes. They still do. But are we super teachable to them in that moment, hyper grace, hyperteaching moments, and if we can earn their, I guess their...
Becky Deubert:Respect.
Dr. B:Yeah, that, hey, my mom and dad aren't just pounding me every day. But I see them, they are prioritizing protein, so I should prioritize protein, right?
Dr. B:So that's so good. What is some of those rhythms? So give me give me one when it comes to nutrition, food, fuel for the kids. What is the rhythm that you try to incorporate into their daily lives?
Becky Deubert:So just to give you a look, in my mind, these little people, in order for so much success, they need nutrients. They need these vitamins and minerals and all these things that are going to help with an overflow of how they are during the day. So start first thing when they wake up. Obviously, a kid's gone all night without water, all these things. Dehydration is definitely there.
Becky Deubert:The first thing they really need to be doing is having a cup of water. That's what we do when we wake up in the morning. The first thing you should always do is consume water. You know? So before anything they do, it's always drink your water, obviously, brush your teeth.
Becky Deubert:But, before any type of food item goes in their mouth, protein is a big factor for us. So, before I get ahead of myself, just with breakfast, it's always protein. And I encourage you to make that fun. It doesn't have to be the same all the time or every day, but always make sure their breakfast consists of, like, a protein; lunch, everything is worked around the protein. And so I tell you that. And before snack when I know they're not hungry.
Becky Deubert:We always say, hey. You have to have a beef stick before you can have that, you know, whatever the bar or whatever it is that they want. So those are those are things that we have in place just to make sure they're consciously making wise choices, but we're not also depriving them from not getting the fun, you know, bag of whatever that they want.
Dr. B:The the other night, I loved seeing it was from Myla's birthday. Mhmm. And Marley, our 5 year old, was across from us, and she kinda tilts her plate up, and she says, "dad, which one's protein?" That's exactly what she said. "Which one's protein?"
Dr. B:And I was like, "hey, the steak on there, that's protein." She goes, okay. And so even at 5 years old, what we're like what we're teaching is prioritizing protein.
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:Why is that so important? Well, because in our culture today, protein is such a deficient nutrient consumed, yet it is the most essential one of the most essential nutrients to consume. It's essential for growth, repair. It's essential for brain function with all amino acids. It has so many important functions that what we find is that when we look at a child's diet, carbohydrates are typically not underconsumed.
Becky Deubert:For sure.
Dr. B:They are overconsumed and they're overconsumed in poor forms, usually sugar and quick carbs. But when we really assess, we see protein as probably being the most efficient outside of healthy fats. So if we're prioritizing protein, when it comes down to a- you mentioned it a little bit, but let's let's hit it.
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:The, one of the kids say, hey, I'm hungry. Can I have a snack?
Becky Deubert:Mhmm.
Dr. B:And they just ate 30 minutes ago.
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:What's what's the habit forming conversation with them in that moment?
Becky Deubert:Yeah. So if we know that they're not actually starving, but they need food, typically, the go to is always the beef sick. But then we evaluate, hey, first, go drink some water. 2nd, try some protein. 3rd, we usually send them to apples, baby carrots, things that are going to give them nutrients, but also give them energy and not trash them for the remainder of the day.
Dr. B:Yeah. What you'll find is if you offer them a healthy option and they turn it down...
Becky Deubert:They're typically not hungry. We do that after dinner a lot. After I've known they've eaten more than enough protein, we're like, well, you can go eat baby carrots. And we're like, oh, I'm good. So, you know...
Dr. B:So a lot of times their signals of hunger is built out of boredom. And is usually established in dehydration. Kids, they don't know that they're dehydrated, right? They just sense hunger and thirst and to them early years, they are very confused on which one's which. So when usually they hydrate, their desire, their appetite or what they perceive as hunger reduces.
Dr. B:And so I think that's also important. And and and then so we have nutrition kind of covered, got a few meals a day, prioritize protein, some snacks when needed that are protein centric, and you can pair some clean carbohydrates with that with vegetables and fruits. What are some other, healthy rhythms when it comes to nutrition, but it's outside the house. So they're gonna go to a party, to a friend's house. Right?
Dr. B:And what's the conversation we're having there? We're about to walk into this party. We know probably pizza and cake is gonna be served. What's our conversation, with them?
Becky Deubert:Well, typically, it's gonna be, Becky, you're sending them because I'm definitely not going to that.
Dr. B:That's valid.
Becky Deubert:So truthfully, when we know that going into it, these are these are kind of like the gray areas because you think you wanna be that parent that is like, my child is not gonna have that garbage. But as your kids get older and as you have more kids, that level kinda softens.
Becky Deubert:And you're like, hey. I don't want them to miss out on all these things and be that weird kid. But let me just take a step back and tell you this. The more that your kids see you be the role model and see, like, hey. Look at my parents have pizza every Friday night, and look at them do this, and look at them do that, but yet they're still, like, making all these great choices.
Becky Deubert:I feel like when a parent takes on truly wanting to be the role model for their children, your children will follow what they do. So the habits that you're instilling in your child as a child, those are long lasting habits.
Dr. B:Yeah.
Becky Deubert:So I say that as we were walking into this party, we know there's garbage. You know what? If our kids want to have one slice of pizza, they are educated well enough, and don't feel bad if your child is not well educated. That comes with time and practice, and then learning how they feel when they eat these things. But telling them, hey, if you just have this after, I'll take you to x y z and let you have this.
Becky Deubert:For us, I don't know what that would be for your family or where you're at. I usually say, hey, instead of like a Chick Fil A fun Friday meet up with our friends, how about we go to Whole Foods and you can build your own plate off the bar? My kids think that's the highlight of their week.
Dr. B:Yeah. And maybe it's the the sushi pack that they can pick up and it's...
Becky Deubert:Or make it our make their own sandwich there.
Dr. B:Yeah. It's the simple stuff and you gotta find that what what it is with your children, but absolutely the sense of delayed gratification is really valuable here because what we're really communicating is, hey, are you willing to sacrifice the moment of pleasure for something that really you desire more?
Becky Deubert:Yeah.
Dr. B:And, and typically, they're going to consume a small portion of whatever that is.
Becky Deubert:Mhmm.
Dr. B:Sometimes they won't at all. They'll make a wise decision. They won't over consume at that party, and then they'll get the benefit of that reserved, you know, consumption.
Becky Deubert:And the cake and the the garbage that's fed there, that is something that, you know, my kids will you know, we kinda teach them. Sometimes it's impolite not to take something that's offered to you like that. It's okay to have a bite of it. But, hey, if you have that, then you've lost your dessert or whatever it is for the day. So you they have to make that choice.
Becky Deubert:So for our kids, they would much rather have their special dessert at night. That's been a big thing for our kids. We're able to put the choice in their hands. And I feel like that's so huge at a young age for your child to be able to realize, okay. I really only get, like, one, like, treat a day in the sense of, like, that sugar intake.
Becky Deubert:So, like, am I gonna waste it on this subpar dried out cookie? Or am I gonna go home and have, like, these amazing popsicles my mom just bought? Or one of her fresh cookies or whatever it is. And I think for children to have the ability at this young age to make a choice and weigh it out, the problem is today, we don't give our children these choices that they have to make.
Becky Deubert:And so they think there's freedom, there's no consequence in all that they're choosing. So then when they become adults, we're seeing, like, oh, why am I got all these problems? They were never taught at a younger age to, hey, like, this has a- okay. You know, we have to make choices throughout the day that will affect us.
Dr. B:Absolutely.
Becky Deubert:In a healthy way. Not in a good and bad way. Just, hey. I wanna be I wanna make good mindful choices to feel my best.
Dr. B:Yeah.
Becky Deubert:You know?
Dr. B:So good. What's the funniest interaction you've had with the patient outside of the office?
Becky Deubert:Well, this is great. I actually love this. So every now and then, I run into a patient at the store, and my cart's full. I usually have kids hanging all over the cart, and they're talking to me. And, typically, I'm not in the office as much anymore.
Becky Deubert:So I don't know a lot of the newer patients, and they don't know me like I used to know them. And, they'll be like, Mrs. Barrett. And I'm like, what? Obviously, our last name is Deubert, if you didn't know that, but everyone thinks or assumes...
Dr. B:Yeah.
Becky Deubert:That our last name is Barrett.
Dr. B:That's hilarious.
Becky Deubert:And so I'll I don't even wanna tell them what our last name is at that point. And I'm just like, hi, like, friend. You know? And,
Dr. B:So good.
Becky Deubert:That they love to just look all in the car. Like, what is it that we're eating? And then there's a little shame in their cart, and it's sometimes a really awkward interaction.
Dr. B:Oh, no.
Becky Deubert:Like, then I'm gonna go back and tell on them.
Dr. B:Oh no.
Becky Deubert:Like, we're not real people. You know?
Dr. B:That's so good.
Becky Deubert:They'll love a treat every now and then for sure. But one of my favorite interactions was I was in Earth Fare a few years ago. This one's great. And she said, have you seen- well, this was actually a lot of years ago. We we had only lived in Knoxville for a little while, and they're like, have you seen that new doctor?
Becky Deubert:We call him doctor Delicious here. And I was like what?
Dr. B:Oh, no. Not this one.
Becky Deubert:I was like, oh, that's my husband.
Dr. B:Oh my goodness.
Becky Deubert:This really awkward moment of, like, oh.
Dr. B:That's when I was doing all the Earth Fare grocery store tours.
Becky Deubert:It was pretty funny.
Becky Deubert:Yeah. So I remember that.
Becky Deubert:I still call him doctor Delicious to this day.
Dr. B:You do. Absolutely.
Becky Deubert:So when you wanna make him smile, just say, what's up, doctor Delicious?
Dr. B:Oh my goodness. Yeah. That was the- that was the going joke in the office for a few years there.
Becky Deubert:It was a good one.
Dr. B:So we got a healthy rhythm of nutrition, hydration, so important to conversate about. So what are some... what are- what are some of those I'm not gonna say junk foods, but
Becky Deubert:Okay. Treats?
Dr. B:Sure. Give me, like, 3, 4 treats. Let's do soda swap.
Becky Deubert:Okay.
Dr. B:So instead of soda, what do they drink?
Becky Deubert:So our kids love zevia. If you're not familiar with it, z e v i a. They come in all different flavors, and they have like, 0 of everything in it. Another one are obviously the poppy drinks.
Dr. B:Which is a prebiotic soda.
Becky Deubert:Yes. Which is is great. There's a few different ones like that. I can't even remember all the names.
Dr. B:What other drinks do they have? Kinda gives them that feel of something.
Becky Deubert:Kombucha. Our kids love a great kombucha. So, that is something you know, those are, like, free things in our house that they can have one of a day when they choose.
Dr. B:Yeah. K. So let's go, frozen quote unquote, treats.
Becky Deubert:Treats?
Dr. B:Yeah.
Becky Deubert:Yes. Okay. So our kids love a great popsicle, good pop. They sell them at most places. They are super clean popsicles.
Becky Deubert:No dyes. No, like, very low in sugar fruit sweetened. Those are great. So Delicious makes a dairy free, like, ice cream sandwich and, like, cones and pretty much everything you could dream of wanting to give your kid.
Dr. B:And Cool Whip.
Becky Deubert:They make a great Cool Whip. So those are all great frozen options.
Dr. B:What about cereals?
Becky Deubert:Cereals. We are big Purely Elizabeth fans. She makes box cereals, granolas. There's a lot of different sprouted options out there. I'm gonna tell you, cereal somewhere, it's we have 4 kids.
Becky Deubert:It's not cheap when they all wanna eat cereal. So I'm gonna be real. If you're trying to save your money, healthy cereals cost more. So pick and choose where you wanna put your extra money.
Dr. B:What are all the- give me all the milks in the fridge. How many milks do you got?
Becky Deubert:All of our kids like different milk. So my son, he's at this age where he wants to get big, strong, and grow tons of muscles. So he drinks whole, organic, grass fed, a 2 milk. If you're gonna do that, I would suggest finding all those qualities in a milk because they're really getting their nutrients that way from it.
Dr. B:It's a great great product. Yeah. If your kids don't have a dairy sensitivity, you know
Becky Deubert:It's phenomenal.
Dr. B:Yeah. Let's give them a good healthy fat...
Becky Deubert:Get some protein, fat.
Dr. B:protein ratio.
Becky Deubert:Oat milk is mine and my girl's choice. We love a good oat milk. And then my one daughter loves, strictly unsweetened almond milk. And then...
Dr. B:Yeah, I think that's about it. And make sure, of course, with those oat and almond milks that they're organic because the glyphosate being used, it really stores up mainly in oat milk when that's tested. It's kinda through the roof in glyphosate. So just make sure you're obviously getting organic in those areas.
Becky Deubert:Mhmm.
Dr. B:Okay. What about when it comes to, like, chips? What's your favorite- what's our favorite good suit chip in the house?
Becky Deubert:Ciate is our favorite. They make a brand of corn chip. I mean, every flavor chip you could want. Ciate has literally come out with it.
Dr. B:So good.
Becky Deubert:Hands down, they're the cleanest.
Dr. B:It's my favorite even over a corn chip.
Becky Deubert:Oh, they're the cleanest, and you're gonna you're gonna love every flavor. So I would definitely call Ciate the win...
Dr. B:Bars?
Dr. B:in the chip market. My kids love GoMacros. They even make the kid friendly ones. I feel like those are a perfect ratio of all the different factors, and they don't have all this, like, fake protein and sweeteners in there that typically upset children's stomach. So I would be really careful giving your children these, like, 20 gram protein bars because they can cause a lot of, tummy digestion pains for them.
Dr. B:Yeah. What time- what time do kids go to bed?
Becky Deubert:So, you know, that we have different ages. But, realistically, we like to go to bed by, like, 8:45 because I don't know. We're old and dorky.
Dr. B:And we wake up early.
Becky Deubert:But, typically, we enjoy having everyone brush teeth and asleep- or brush teeth 8:15. Everyone kinda goes to their room, has their own quiet time. It does take Barrett and I a little bit of time to get through all 4 kids' bedrooms, prayers, hugs, kisses, cuddles, you know, that special nighttime. So we start at 8:15. Our 5 year old obviously goes to bed a little earlier, but, that's our that's our rhythm through the school week.
Becky Deubert:On weekends, we obviously have more grace, but that's probably like 9:15, so...
Dr. B:Yeah. And if you were at the end of the day, if we were to ask you, what would, if you look back on raising children, and you were to process the question, what did I leave them with? What would your answer be? What would you want the their answer to be?
Becky Deubert:I would love to tell you that I left them with this, like, knowledge and power of their bodies and health, but when he asked me a question like that, I don't care one lick about any of that. And the only thing that holds value in my heart at that point is that they feel literally the love of Jesus, that they feel the comfort of his arms around him through us, and that they feel this long lasting sense of security that, like, they are equipped in all these areas to go forth. You know? Yes. So I feel like that you can try hard in all these areas, and as parents, I would encourage you to run that race and press in in these areas that are really gonna help them.
Becky Deubert:But when you step back and stand before the Lord, I just want him to say, hey, Becky, like, you poured your heart out to these babies and you didn't let a day go that they didn't, like, feel his love through you. So, ultimately, if I can leave you and encourage you with anything, I think that is the win of the day.
Dr. B:How do- last question. That's so good. How do you stay so beautiful? You are so youthful, so energetic, so beautiful, and that's a rhetorical question. You don't have to answer that.
Becky Deubert:I can't really answer that.
Dr. B:We're so grateful that you shared your wisdom today. I know it's gonna bless some listeners. I know it will. And out of that, we're actually gonna have a, healthy children workshop. Okay. Just how to raise a healthy family coming up. So keep an eye out for that. So I hope today's episode was super valuable. Thanks for thanks for being on today.
Becky Deubert:Hey. Thanks for coming. Can we add a link to this? Like, can you add something for people to look at?
Dr. B:Yeah. We got that.
Becky Deubert:Okay. I'm gonna link our kids' favorite cookie recipe on to this podcast.
Dr. B:K.
Becky Deubert:So just to have you grounds to start somewhere.
Dr. B:Sounds good.
Becky Deubert:It tends to be a fan favorite, and I hope it blesses you and your family. It was so good to be here.
Dr. B:Yeah. Thanks again for listening to another episode of the Real Health Podcast.
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